So, I’m starting another challenge. 100 Ideas.
100 Ideas is about 100 ideas that have shaped my life and helped me to be who I am today. Hopefully some of these ideas will resonate with you. Probably most of these ideas won’t be my own but sure, by incorporating them into my personality, I can make them my own.
Anyway, lets start.
1 – The Kindness Shield.
As a kid I was really sensitive to the idea of whether someone liked me or not. If I found out that someone didn’t like me, it would destroy my world. That’s probably why growing up, Roseanne was a bit of a role model for me, and these days if you tell me you don’t like me, I’m ok with that. So what helped me get from where I was (the socially fearful me) to where I am today (borderline don’t give a F)? The answer to that is The Kindness Shield.
The Kindness Shield is basically just being as genuinely nice to other people as you can be. Basically, in interactions with other people, you can be one of three things; a douche bag, you, you plus The Kindness Shield.
- If you’re a douche bag and someone treats you like a douche bag, that’s just cause and effect. The end.
- If you’re just being you, maybe something in your personality can rub a stranger the wrong way and that can cause offence. So if someone is offended by your personality, it’s hard not to take it personally.
- If you’re being you plus The Kindness Shield, you’re being genuinely nice as hell, and if someone takes offence to that, it just doesn’t make sense. You have not caused that effect. Therefore, it’s the other side of the equation has caused that result. ie. its the other persons fault. Maybe they had a bad day and several bad things happened to them before they met you, and they’re taking their bad mood out on you. If you know this bad mood has nothing to do with you, it’s easy not to take it personally. Just disengage and walk away.
I guess it’s like how in the Bible it says “Treat others as you would like them to treat you.” It could have done with an extra bit that says “So if you’re being nice and they’re being mean, that person is just crazy in the head. Ain’t nobody got time fo’ dat!”